CHECKLIST

______1. Cancel all credit cards

______2. Clean out all bank and investment accounts.

______3. Collect all bank statements, ___utility bills______ canceled checks___, insurance policies___ and anything in the      house that bears a dollar sign and deliver them to your attorney for safekeeping.

______4. Pack a bag and keep it elsewhere This might even include some foodstuffs, locate a potential dwelling but DO NOT LEAVE THE HOME UNLESS ORDERED BY THE JUDGE.

______5. Contact an attorney experienced in custody cases who has a reputation as a fighter.

______6. Become or remain deeply involved in your children's school activities. Meet with teachers, attend PTA meetings, ball games, etc.

______7. Provide all the child care functions for your child, keep a record of dates and witnesses(LINK)

Homework_____

Diapers ____

Meals_________

Buy clothes________

Wash clothes____

______8. Make home movies/take pictures of you and the child together.

______9. Make a Witness List of people who have observed you doing all the above

______10. At the last minute before anything is filed, clean out ALL valuables, guns, jewelry, personal effects, photos that mean a lot to you, etc. from the house and put in storage. Get your wife's empty pill bottles and any mental records. Deny her anything to hock to pay for attorney fees and deny her control of anything she can hold over your head. Assume that whatever you leave in the house will never be seen again. Do this even if you NOW have control of the house. DO NOT MOVE OUT OF THE CHILDREN'S RESIDENCE EVEN TEMPORARILY UNLESS ORDERED BY A COURT! DO NOT LEAVE CHILDREN WITHOUT FOOD, UTILITIES ETC. YOU CAN DIRECTLY PURCHASE THINGS THEY NEED .

______11. DO NOT ACQUIRE OR EXPOSE ANY NEW GIRLFRIEND OR ALLOW HER TO INTERMEDDLE UNTIL THE DIVORCE IS FINAL!!!! This will make things go MUCH smoother. Spend time with your kids instead of dating. Live alone in a place with a bedroom for the kids, full of toys/computers etc if the court orders you out of the marital residence.

______12. DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT, RECORD AND LOG EVERYTHING IN A CHRONOLOGICAL LOG(LINK)

______13. KEEP AN EXHIBIT LOG, NUMBERING EACH POTENTIAL EXHIBIT AS YOU GO .KEEPING HUNDREDS OR THOUSANDS OF POTENTIAL EXHIBITS  ORGANIZED CAN BE A NIGHTMARE. USE EMAIL AND WRITTEN CONFIRMATIONS OF IMPORTANT CONVERSATIONS. CREATE A PAPER TRAIL.

______14 Make NO threats of violence,EVER! Do nothing even remotely threatening or violent. It will totally destroy your case. Bite your tongue, no name calling. Always be quiet , polite and courteous. YOU must be the guy in the white hat. Let her be the vindictive one!

______15 If your state law allows ,carry a secret pocket tape recorder (turned on) anytime you are in your spouses immediate area.

______16 Review this list with a local attorney before use.

USE OF THIS LIST DOES NOT ESTABLISH AN ATTORNEY/CLIENT RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE USER AND ATTORNEY ISAACS OR THE FATHERS RIGHTS FOUNDATION. USE THIS LIST ONLY WHEN OK'D BY A LOCAL ATTORNEY